Pregnancy timeline for health and wellness

When I was pregnant with our first child, I created a “pregnancy by the month” note in my phone where I kept a running list of classes, books, wellness activities and other milestones so that I could consolidate all of the things I’d read from 100 different sources in one place. Looking back, it was definitely my unique form of nesting, but it was also super helpful.

Below is a less detailed version of my list that I’m hoping will be a helpful starting point for you as well. Note that before 18 weeks, I started doing 30-minute walks and some form of yoga, barre or stretching every day, which I did throughout my pregnancy.

Postpartum on a budget

Postpartum care is so close to my heart. Many cultures – particularly non-Western ones – are steeped in the tradition of offering postpartum care. This support of new mothers focuses first and foremost on healing her. Through emotional, physical and spiritual support, she becomes empowered to step into her new role and offer the best care to her baby.

In contrast, in the U.S., our focus is not on the mother, but the baby, after birth. Friends and family ask how the baby is eating, how the baby is sleeping, if the baby is gaining weight. Meanwhile the mother, in her most raw, vulnerable and exhausted state, is left to fend for herself. Worse, the absence of questions about the mother – how she’s adjusting – reinforces the message that how the mother feels doesn’t matter.

But in reality, a baby cannot thrive unless the mother is thriving. By failing to support a new mother, we jeopardize her health and the health of her family for years to come. (For more on that, check out The Postnatal Depletion Cure by Dr. Oscar Serrallach.)

In a perfect world, we would all have postpartum doulas on hand for the first six weeks to provide meals, childcare, massages, help with cleaning and chores and morale support for mom. Sadly, that’s just not an option financially for mot people. The good news is there are things you can do to set yourself up for success postpartum that don’t cost a thing.

Commit to the 3 rules of postpartum care: Rest, Rehydrate and Roast the mom. Rest is so critical to healing, but so often, women either have to or feel pressured to be up and moving around immediately after childbirth. If you can, stay in bed. Make sure that you hydrate, especially if you’re breastfeeding, and try to stay comfortable and warm. You can find more advice for caregivers and partners on how to support a woman after childbirth here.

Eat real food. Proper nutrition is so important all the time, but particularly postpartum. According to Ritual, the postpartum period is actually even more nutritionally demanding than pregnancy itself. Ideally, new moms would have fresh meals prepared for them three times a day. If you don’t have that luxury, plan ahead. While you’re pregnant, double your recipes and freeze half to set aside for the weeks following childbirth. This option isn’t perfect, but it’s so much better than eating junk food, not eating or spending hours on your feet in the kitchen. Here’s more on foods to eat and foods to avoid postpartum. And don’t forget to take a quality multivitamin or even better, a postnatal multivitamin for at least six months after birth.

Get help from guests. Keeping a household running with a newborn around is tough. My midwife stressed during my pregnancy that the ideal ratio is three adults for every newborn in the weeks immediately after birth. If that amount of help isn’t happening for you (or even if it is), I highly recommend asking for help with chores and/or errands from your friends and family. Keep a running chore list on your refrigerator and don’t be shy about it! Odds are, they’d love a way to show their love and support. If you feel uncomfortable asking, enlist your partner’s help. You also could have a sign-up sheet for chores, errands and/or meals at your baby shower or mother blessing so that expectations are set in advance. You can access an online sign-up sheet template that I created here. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help, and we need to normalize this type of support for parents!

My pregnancy nighttime routine

Nighttime sleep doesn’t always come easily, especially towards the end of pregnancy. I’d never struggled with insomnia until the end of my third trimester. So, through trial and error, I created a nighttime routine to help signal to my body that it was time to rest and to make myself as physically comfortable as possible.

8:00 pm: warm milk with molasses. I love having a warm, cozy beverage after supper. Since molasses is a good source of iron, calcium, magnesium and other trace minerals, I started mixing it with warm milk over the stove (about a cup and a half of milk to a tablespoon of molasses). So relaxing and good for you as well!

9:00 pm: warm shower. I’ve always preferred to shower at night, but especially during pregnancy. It really helped put me in bedtime mode, and the warm water relaxed my muscles.

9:20 pm: tart cherry juice. I’ve written about tart cherry juice and its incredible sleep properties before. Every night, immediately before bed, I mixed about two tablespoons of tart cherry juice with warm water to help me sleep. I swear it works like a charm!

9:25 pm: heating pad. My neck, shoulders and upper back are my problem areas and where I hold tension. I kept this neck and shoulder heating pad plugged in beside my bed and fell asleep with it on low every night. It helped relieve my discomfort and felt so soothing.

9:30 pm: pregnancy pillow. This pregnancy pillow helped support my growing belly and aching back and hips during my last two trimesters. Highly recommend.

2:00 am: stretching. Inevitably after falling asleep, I would wake up several hours later with back and hip pain. The only thing that made me feel better was light stretching. My go-tos were a forward bend (with my hands on the edge of our bathtub), cat/cow, a deep squat, butterfly, head to knee pose and a figure-four stretch. That combination really worked for me.

4:00 am: Ensure Plus Nutrition Shakes. At least once during the night, I would wake up hungry. In the last few weeks of pregnancy, I kept a stash of Ensure Plus Shakes by my bed for convenience. They have 27 vitamins and minerals and 16 grams of protein. That was amazing for me because I struggled to get enough protein in my diet, and during pregnancy, you should aim for at least 50-75 grams of protein per day.

A note on co-sleeping

Co-sleeping, or children sleeping with one or both parents, is one of the most controversial topics we’ve encountered as new parents. When I was pregnant, we had no intention of bed sharing with our baby. We planned for her to sleep in a bassinet in our room so that we could have the comfort of being near each other without the suffocation risks we kept reading about. We planned for her to sleep in our room, either in her bassinet or crib, for the first year. (The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends room sharing until at least six months of age and preferably the first year to protect against sudden infant death syndrome).

But like most things with parenting, there are nuances. The night after she was born, we co-slept in the hospital. It felt so unnatural to be apart from her and she was fussy, so I put her on my chest. The skin-to-skin contact felt so comforting for both of us. Before we left the hospital the next day, the nurse warned us not to co-sleep once we got home. And to be honest, I don’t think we intended to. But the reality was that we all slept better when we were together. Putting her in a bassinet went against my instincts. I’m such a light sleeper that it felt safe to me. She was a full-term, healthy baby. I was also breastfeeding, which is thought to make moms sleep less deeply and more sensitive to baby’s movement. And of course neither my husband or I were drinking alcohol or taking any drugs.

When my midwife made a home visit two days later, she asked how we were sleeping. My husband and I exchanged nervous looks. I didn’t know her stance on co-sleeping and was afraid of being shamed for our decision. But she said there was nothing wrong with co-sleeping as long as we were doing it safely. Throughout pregnancy, I made a lot of progress in learning to trust my instincts and not rely on others to tell me what was best for my body and my baby. But in that very raw postpartum moment, I felt so validated and relieved. During our baby’s first two weeks, we co-slept and then she moved to her bassinet. She was ready for more independence and so were we.

I decided to write about co-sleeping not because I think it’s particularly better than any other sleep method. And not because I want to convince more people to try it. Simply, I want to raise the point that you have the right to trust your instincts and choose what’s right for you and your family without guilt or shame. And if you do choose bed sharing, do your research.

In The Mama Natural Week-by-Week Guide to Pregnancy & Childbirth, Genevieve Howland says that two separate studies, both published in JAMA Pediatrics, indicate that as many as 50 percent of parents practice bed sharing at least some of the time. If you fall into that category, you’re not alone. Howland says, “When it comes to bed sharing, specifically, it’s not the practice itself that’s unsafe–UNICEF and La Leche League International, for example actually support bed sharing–but the way it’s practiced. In other words, there’s absolutely a wrong way to do it; when practiced incorrectly, sleeping alongside an infant can be exceedingly dangerous. Unfortunately, our tendency to lump together safe forms of co-sleeping and unsafe practices gives all forms of co-sleeping a negative connotation. This prevents many parents from talking openly about co-sleeping and bed sharing, or from seeking guidance on how to do it safely.”

For up-to-date research on co-sleeping, The Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at the University of Notre Dame is a great science-based resource on bed sharing. It’s led by Professor James J. McKenna, who is recognized as the world’s leading authority on mother-infant co-sleeping in relationship to breastfeeding and SIDS. You can find their safe guidelines for sleeping with infants here. For more information, you might want to check out Dr. McKenna’s book Safe Infant Sleep: Expert Answers to Your Cosleeping Questions which was published in 2020.

The #1 tool that helped me sleep during the third trimester

It’s no secret that sleep towards the end of pregnancy can be challenging. Frequent bathroom breaks, a kickboxing baby, backaches, racing thoughts and any number of other distractions can all work against your ability to rest. For me, a pregnancy pillow helped up until a certain point. During my last month, I got out of bed practically every night to stretch my back and hips in my bathroom to reduce my discomfort.

But the only thing that helped me consistently and worked like magic was a nightly dose of tart cherry juice. According to the Sleep Foundation, tart cherry juice contains both tryptophan and melatonin. Melatonin is a sleep hormone secreted at certain times of day to help the body transition to sleep. Tryptophan helps the body produce melatonin, therefore it is essential to a good night’s sleep.

I mixed two tablespoons of tart cherry juice with warm water and drank it before bed. I might have fallen for the placebo effect, but on the nights I had the juice, I fell asleep immediately…no more lying awake for hours tossing and turning.

Try it and see if it works for you!

For partners and caregivers: 5 ways to support a new mom

A new mother is in a state of tremendous transition for at least the first six weeks postpartum. She’s recovering physically from labor and delivery. Her hormones are dramatically shifting. She might be processing fear and/or trauma from childbirth. She’s learning how to breastfeed, which many women attest is the hardest thing they’ve ever done. She is emotionally raw, open and more vulnerable than she’s ever felt.

According to many ancient cultures, this transition lays the foundation for the rest of her life. And yet, so often in the U.S., the focus is on the health of the baby to the exclusion of the mother. Now is the time to celebrate, support and nurture the mother so that she feels whole, balanced and able to care for her newborn.

  1. Decide on the division of labor. While I was pregnant, my midwife was a big proponent of the “three adults for every infant” rule and strongly urged my husband and me to recruit a third person to help for at least two weeks after the birth of our daughter. As part of that exercise, we made a list of routine household duties, things like feeding the dog, buying groceries, taking out the trash, etc. to get really specific about who was doing what. My husband and I also did a rough outline of baby-related responsibilities and agreed on a plan for taking care of her. Once she arrived and we got a better idea of what worked for us, we adapted our plans and settled into a routine. What made sense logically in our planning process wasn’t necessarily what was best in practice. But more importantly, our conversation helped us prioritize (“Do we really need to dust our furniture for that first two weeks?”), ensure that we had enough help and set expectations about what each of us was responsible for. When you’re tired and overwhelmed, it’s easy for resentment to fester. Trust me….have the conversation beforehand.
  2. Give her time and permission to rest. It’s critical for a new mom’s mental, emotional and physical health to heal following childbirth. You can read more on the topic and find helpful resources here. This is a complicated time for new moms and she might feel social pressure to help around the house, entertain guests, look like her pre-pregnant self and generally seem “back to normal.” If this is the case, give her permission to put her feet up, relax and move at a pace that her body is ready for. You might also need to set boundaries with friends and family on her behalf. Ideally, she would stay in bed or close by it for the first two weeks postpartum, or longer if she has gone through a Cesarean birth. Giving her permission to rest also necessitates a little more attentiveness from you; she’s only able to rest if someone else is preparing food, bringing her water, making sure she’s warm and looking after her needs.
  3. Know the warning signs. Ensure that you’ve done your homework and that you know the signs of postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety. You will likely recognize a change in her before she sees it in herself. The Postnatal Depletion Cure is an excellent resource. 
  4. Use meaningful words of affirmation. When I was creating my birth plan, my midwife said that she often asks her clients to write a list of positive phrases that they’d like to hear during the more difficult phases of labor to give them strength and comfort. I think that the same advice applies beautifully to the postpartum period, especially if “words of affirmation” is the new mom’s love language. Meaningful, heart-felt encouragement can go far during the emotionally raw and vulnerable postpartum period…and anytime for that matter.
  5. Take care of yourself. For fathers: As you prepare to step into your new role, remember that this is an incredibly transformative time for you, too. The old saying that a woman becomes a mom when she finds out she’s pregnant, but a man becomes a father when he see his child for the first time was definitely true in our case. It’s an emotional time that can be profound, stressful, beautiful and intimate…and it all happens in such a blur. Taking care of yourself is critical: try to get rest, find an exercise or meditation practice that grounds you, speak with a therapist to get ahead of anything that might come up…whatever will help you find strength, peace and the ability to be present in the moment. Those will offer mom and baby great security and will help create a positive, supportive home environment.

Ultimately, your unconditional love and support are the most important things you can give a new mom at this time. The care and comfort you show her are critical to her ability to look after the baby and heal herself, which are both cornerstones for a happy, healthy family in the long term.

The art (and gift) of resting postpartum

Around the world, traditional cultures have honored a strict rest period for new mothers for centuries. Ayurveda adheres to a 42-day postpartum window of care for moms. In the Chinese culture, mothers stay inside and rest for 40 days. These traditions encourage women to heal, bond with their baby and make the sacred transition into motherhood in a cozy, nourishing and peaceful environment.

Contrast that image with the reality for most women in the U.S.; the pressures to be on their feet days after delivery, to entertain friends and family, to look their best for a newborn photoshoot and of course to fit into their pre-pregnancy clothes are enough to make anyone feel inadequate. Our parental leave policies reinforce the message that parents shouldn’t have to skip a beat after childbirth; the U.S. is one of only a few countries that doesn’t offer some form of paid family leave. In contrast, Britain offers 39 weeks, Sweden 68 weeks and Japan 52 weeks or more. Sigh. I digress.)

This isn’t a paid vacation. There are physical and emotional consequences when women don’t take the time they need to heal. In Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, renowned midwife Ina May Gaskin says, “Stay close to home, don’t entertain, and rest. This is your best way to prevent extra bleeding and the emotional-physical crash that often follows being up and around too early. There are lots of good reasons why traditional cultures all over the world respect the need for new mothers to take some time to allow their bodies to make the transition from pregnancy to new motherhood.”

In The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother, Heng Ou says of new moms, “And the experiences she had during pregnancy and birth may have left her mentally and emotionally shaken. Chinese lore says that if the complex thoughts and feelings that come up after birth are left unaddressed, or are suppressed under waves of busyness and distraction, chi will get blocked and illness will set in. Viewed through another lens, this might be called anxiety or depression.”

“Busyness and distraction.” Sound familiar? Our culture rewards and romanticizes productivity, achievement and overwork. I’ve been trained as a postpartum doula in the Ayurvedic tradition and I fully embrace the midwifery model of care, but even as mentally prepared as I was to rest and replenish in the weeks following my daughter’s birth, I struggled with the urge to do.

In retrospect, I was doing a lot. Recovering from a 32-hour labor. Getting to know my newborn. Breastfeeding and pumping for hours a day. Trying to make time for rest and self care. But working against that knowledge was the almost 15 years I spent in the corporate world, the addiction to ticking through a to-do list, verbal recognition, the illusion of control and having something tangible to show for my work.

I did happily spend my first week postpartum in bed. The memories my husband and I have with our daughter in our bed that first week are my most treasured. They were so sweet, so pure and so raw. I would’ve spent two weeks in bed with my mom as my caregiver, but she broke her foot the day after we got home from the hospital, so by the second week, I needed to be on my feet to prepare meals and help out more around the house. Looking back, this abrupt shift from bedroom nest to real life was a jolt for me. I began obsessively cleaning and organizing. I chalked it up to leftover nesting urge from pregnancy. Friends and family gave me positive feedback. I didn’t think twice about it.

I went to see my physical therapist four months after I delivered to evaluate my diastasis recti, and she asked how I felt emotionally. She said that postpartum anxiety can often show up in strange ways, like excessive shopping or cleaning. In that moment, I realized that my behavior was a byproduct of anxiety. I see now that my cleaning and organizing was absolutely a coping mechanism to help me feel whole, put together, in control and productive.

After that realization, I spent a lot of time trying to unpack and process the past year of and all of its emotions. They’re complicated, and other people will often spot anxiety and depression before you’ll see them in yourself. Bottom line: if you have the opportunity to rest, heal and bond with your baby, but resist it, I urge you to dig deep to find out why. Talk to a therapist, doctor, yoga instructor or friend that you trust. Your resistance could stem from restlessness from lack of “productivity” to wanting to establish an illusion of “normal.”

Ina May Gaskin says, “Even when everything goes well in giving birth, the first days and weeks after birth can be more stressful than you might realize. This is especially true if you were a real get-things-done person in your life before children. You have twenty-four-hour-per-day responsibility for a helpless new human being, seven days a week […] You will probably be more tired than ever before in your life. […] You want to do a perfect job — a phrase that will just make your life harder than ever.”

Whatever the choose, I encourage you to make informed decisions and consider the possible consequences.

In his book The Postnatal Depletion Cure, Dr. Oscar Serrallach says, “If a new mom isn’t allowed to fully recover from the demanding requirements of pregnancy and birth, the aftereffects can last for years. I’ve treated women who were still depleted 10 years after their babies were born.”

The Ayurveda tradition goes even further: a woman’s first 42 days as a new mother lays the foundation for the next 42 years of her life. Consider how you want to show up as a mother and make the decisions that work best for you. It’s a gift to yourself, your family and your community.

P.S. If you’re a mom but not a new mom and are feeling emotionally, physically and/or mentally depleted, Dr. Serrallach’s book also offers advice for you. He looks holistically at the longer-term impacts of depletion and gives really thorough steps on how to regain your vitality.

5 things that helped me recover from my miscarriage

I experienced a miscarriage in July 2020. My husband and I got married earlier that year, and we were thrilled that I was pregnant. I was 10 and a half weeks along when I lost the baby. In the week that followed, I processed a lot of emotions. During that process, I created this list.

Losing a baby is an incredibly isolating experience. I found so much comfort and healing in reading the experiences of other people online in the days that followed. I want to share this list as a way to pass along my story and to hopefully, in a small way, help others who find themselves on the other side of the trauma of miscarriage.

  1. Tell at least one person you trust everything. There is power in saying it out loud and telling your story, unfiltered, as you begin to heal and process your emotions. You might be surprised by what you say. If that approach feels too uncomfortable, try writing it down instead. Either way, breaking the silence can be empowering.
  2. Find a creative outlet. You might find yourself wanting a creative outlet at this time. I felt a need to channel all of the nurturing and care I’d devoted to my body and my baby, and I found that baking really helped me feel like I could create something beautiful that brought me joy. You might try art, poetry or gardening. Whatever you choose, check in with yourself to ensure that this feels like an emotional outlet and not a distraction. Staying busy and glossing over your feelings is not a long-term solution. Be kind to yourself and take it slow.
  3. Feel the full range of emotions in your own time. I tried to be strong for everyone else, including the doctor and nurses who provided my care. By the fourth day, I cried all day long. Fight the urge to go through the list of “at leasts” (“at least I could get pregnant,” “at least I wasn’t further along,” “at least I survived”). So many women invalidate their own trauma because other people have it worse. Regardless of the circumstances around your miscarriage, you owe it to yourself to grieve. This is a loss that you will mourn the rest of your life.
  4. Benefit from postpartum care. At the time of my miscarriage, I had never been a mother, but I did an extensive postpartum doula training that helped inform my recovery. A miscarriage is a traumatic event from an emotional standpoint but also a physical one. Rest as much as possible. Stay warm. Wear comfortable clothing. Avoid over stimulation, social media and violent or upsetting content. I found that belly support felt comforting to me. Stay hydrated and eat easy-to-digest foods. Focus on nourishing your body and your soul.
  5. When you’re ready, find ways to reconnect with your body again. I struggled with trusting my body and felt like it was a totally separate being that had betrayed me. Yoga was an incredible tool for me. Below is an excerpt from my journal in the week following my miscarriage. It describes the moment that I reconnected with my body. Disclaimer, this is very raw, so please don’t read this if you have recently experienced a pregnancy loss.

While I was doing yoga, I realized that I felt at odds with my body – a duality of sides. One side wanted the baby and the other side murdered the baby. I know that’s not logical. Actually, I guess there’s truth to it. The part of my body that keeps systems running and that knows how to create a baby also realized that the baby wasn’t going to survive. It was merciful. But there was another part of me that loved being pregnant and daydreamed about finally holding our baby girl, a part that rested my hand on my belly all day because I felt connected to her, and that part must not know anything because I was completely blindsided by the miscarriage. I put my hand to my belly for weeks without knowing that everything in my belly was dead. In that moment, I tried to connect with my body and integrate the two sides. As I sobbed, I could finally feel the cells in my uterus again. And they were mourning, too.

It’s been a year and half since my miscarriage. In that time, I got pregnant and had a healthy baby girl. But the fear and sadness of losing a child is still very fresh within me. And I think that’s okay. Healing will take a lot of reflection and self love. I hope that you have the resources you need to help your recovery and that you are able to find the time and space you need to grieve. And if it all becomes too much, please please seek professional help. You have my love and deepest sympathy.

How to create a bedside self-care center for new moms

According to the Ayurvedic tradition, the first six weeks after childbirth is a critical window for both mom and baby. This postpartum window is a time for rest and support. Activities should be minimal, quiet and gentle. Surrounds should be soft, warm and cozy. The intention is to create a nurturing, pleasant environment for the mom to recover, and for both mom and baby to gradually adjust into a new routine.

Since so much of mom’s first six weeks postpartum are spent in the comfort of her bedroom, creating a self-care center at her bedside can help her feel prepared, prevent unnecessary movement, and create a relaxing, rejuvenating ambiance.

If you’re expecting, consider curating a basket of your favorite self-care essentials as well as practical tools for the baby you’ll want within arm’s reach. These self-care baskets also make great baby shower and sprinkle gifts.  

A few self-care center ideas to get you started:

  • Indulgent massage oil
  • Lip balm
  • Sheet masks
  • Cozy socks
  • An extra blanket (I highly recommend ChappyWrap; their blankets are lightweight, so soft and easy to clean. And the company is run by a mother/daughter duo!)
  • Essential oils, either applied directly or using a diffuser (You can read my essential oil recommendations for nighttime here.)
  • Noise maker or relaxing play list
  • Hot water bottle
  • Water thermos
  • Nipple cream (Consider an all-natural option like ghee or calendula oil.)
  • Meaningful or inspirational items  
  • Journal and pen
  • Arnica tablets for swelling, pain reliever of choice, vitamins/supplements
  • Small house plant
  • Hand sanitizer
  • Burp cloths and baby wipes
  • Disposable Breast Pads
  • Consider incorporating new colors into the space, based on the emotions they invoke. (More on that here.)

If you’re designing a self-care center for yourself, personalize it and make it yours!

Do you adore show tunes?… Start a playlist.

Love the way Lisa Frank takes you back to childhood?… Buy a dolphin notebook.

Live for self-care and your skin-care routine?… Splurge on some sheet masks and hand cream.

This isn’t just a “treat yo’ self” moment. The little things truly make a significant impact during this very raw, very vulnerable time, so finding joy and comfort can go a long way in nourishing you and your baby.

4 cozy drinks that are good for the soul

Regardless of the time of year, one of my favorite nighttime rituals is a warm beverage right before bed. It helps me feel nourished, and depending on the strains of the day, can help with my emotional state as well. Here are some of my favorites:

1) Ceremonial Hot Chocolate by Heng Ou is inspired by Shell Walker Luttrell, an Arizona midwife who prepares a hot cacao and cornmeal beverage for new mothers immediately after childbirth. I read Ou’s cookbook, The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother, during my postpartum doula class, and I’ve been drinking this decadent hot chocolate ever since. Make this drink when you’re feeling indulgent or marking a special occasion.The cornmeal does add texture, so I recommend blending the finished product (otherwise, it can be a bit chunky.)

Style it with: Feather-trim pajamas, OUAI hair mask, “That Old Black Magic” by Ella Fitzgerald

2) Golden Milk by Jasmine Hemsley includes all of the cozy spices – cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger and cardamom. She offers quite a few ingredient options, but I prefer oat milk, molasses and ghee. It’s so replenishing and relaxing. The recipe is for one person, but you could make a larger batch for the week and reheat a single serving each night.

Style it with: Barefoot Dreams cardigan, Herbivore body oil, “River” by Leon Bridges, a cozy fire

3) Self-Love Potion by Good Witch Kitchen is truly a treat. You might need to plan ahead for some of the ingredients (like hibiscus and rose petals). Worth it.

Style it with: Silk pajamas, hot pink lipstick, “Stupid Love” by Lady Gaga

4) Ginger tea by Yogi is as easy as it gets. This tea comes packaged as a tea bag, so if I’m short on time or traveling, this is my go to. It’s also my favorite if I’m feeling particularly scattered, overwhelmed or anxious, because it’s incredibly grounding.

Style it with: Lake pajamas, homemade honey face mask, goop podcast, a journal

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